I told my kids the truth

Uju Anya says her children were never confused about who she was. “I always talk to my kids openly,” she said. “About bodies, about safety, about everything.”

She explained why. “It helps protect them. They know what is okay and what is not.”

When she decided to leave her marriage, she spoke honestly to them. “I told them we were divorcing because we are not sexually compatible,” she told Chude Jideonwo.

Their reaction surprised her. “They asked what it meant. I told them, ‘I’m gay and your dad isn’t.’ They said, ‘Oh, okay.’ That was it.”

Uju said people often make wrong assumptions. “Some think we were doing weird things in front of kids. That’s nonsense,” she stated firmly.

She added, “We respected boundaries. We are normal parents.”

Uju also shared that hiding her truth affected her health. She mentioned deep sadness, depression, and su!c!dal thoughts during that period. “Living in despair is heavy,” she said.

She believes honesty saved her. “Not living your truth can destroy you,” she said.

Today, she feels lighter. “I am fulfilled now,” she said. “I am finally myself.”