Love has rules too – Counselor Adofoli warns after Daddy Lumba’s marital controversy

Counsellor Frank Edem Adofoli has weighed in on Daddy Lumba’s posthumous litigation between his first wife Akosua Serwaa and the musician’s family.

In a piece titled “Love, Lies and Legal Ties,” Adofoli dissected the issue through a legal and moral lens, warning that “many people are in similar situations without even knowing it.”

According to him, the situation offers a harsh but necessary truth; love does not override the law.

Using Daddy Lumba’s case as a cautionary tale, the counselor explained that marriages contracted under monogamous laws, such as those registered in Germany, prohibit the individual from marrying another person unless the first union is legally dissolved.

“Until the day Daddy Lumba died, he believed he had one legal wife,” Adofoli noted, stressing that holding a customary ceremony with another woman while still legally bound to the first constitutes bigamy, a criminal offense.

He added that many men, out of fear of losing property in divorce settlements, resort to emotional deception. “That’s not love,” he said. “It’s deception.”

Adofoli urged men unhappy in their unions to “free themselves legally before being with someone else,” adding that true integrity demands honesty both before God and the law.

He concluded by saying; “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”