We have been raised to see marriage as “trophy” - Vicky Zugah
Ghanaian actress and television host, Ms Vicky Zugah has called for a paradigm shift in the training of the girl child which makes her see marriage as a trophy.
In an Instagram post sighted by GhanaPlus.com, the actress said a lot of women in our part of the continent, most especially, have been raised to see marriage as a trophy and that when one was not married at a certain age then it was a taboo.
She noted it was about time parents help change the narrative by educating their daughters to choose “Ms over late Mrs” and also educate them to walk out of abusive marriages when need be.
The actress again called for them to be educated to be financially independent and to be able to fend for themselves.
Ms Zugah wrote: “A lot of Africans especially women, have been raised to see marriage as “trophy”.
Most Africans make it look like when one isn’t married after a certain age then it is a taboo, a sin or something must definitely be wrong with the person. This is the reason victims get depressed, suffer and die in abusive marriages.
Dear parents, We can change this narrative. Let us teach our daughters especially, that life is a whole journey and marriage is only a PART of that journey.
That marriage is a beautiful thing but then again a failed marriage isn’t a failed life and it is better to return home alive if it doesn’t work than to endure and return in a casket. Teach them to choose “Miss” over “The late Mrs”.
Warn them never to threaten an abusive partner with divorce. They must first leave unannounced then seek divorce from afar.
Let us teach them how to be financially independent and not solely depend on their partners for things they can do for themselves. Etc Etc Etc