Why divorced women pursue married men

Nigerian therapist Lara Kudayisi has stirred conversations about the intricacies of modern relationships during her appearance on the Honest Brunch podcast hosted by Nedu Wazobia.

Lara delved into the often-overlooked dynamics between divorced women and married men, raising questions about their motivations and emotional struggles.

“Do divorced women think about the pain they endured when their husbands cheated on them? How does it feel to now be on the other side of the story, involved with a married man?”

Lara posed these probing questions, inviting listeners to reflect on the cycle of heartbreak and betrayal that can characterize such situations.

She pointed out that divorced women may feel particularly vulnerable in the dating scene, especially if they are single mothers.

“There’s this fear of being overlooked or judged harshly for being a single mother. Society hasn’t made it easy for them to find new partners,” she remarked, emphasizing how societal expectations can weigh heavily on women in this category.

Lara also discussed the role of intimacy in these relationships, offering a candid perspective on why some women might seek comfort in the arms of married men.

“Let’s be honest—intimacy is important, and for some women, the absence of it becomes unbearable. This could push them to make decisions they might not have considered otherwise,” she explained.

The discussion wasn’t just about laying blame but also about understanding the pressures and emotional challenges that divorced women face.

Lara urged listeners to adopt a more empathetic view while also encouraging women to reflect deeply on their choices and the potential ripple effects of their actions.