Why prolonged sexual performance is overrated

Nigerian music producer Olumide Ogunade, popularly known as ID Cabasa, has weighed in on the societal pressures placed on men regarding sexual performance, critiquing the undue emphasis on extended intimacy.

During a conversation on the Honest Brunch podcast, ID Cabasa questioned the fixation on prolonged performance, asserting that it does not necessarily equate to satisfaction or emotional connection.

“I cannot go multiple rounds. Let’s be honest, what is the point? The satisfaction you derive from the first round is not much different from the second or third,” Cabasa remarked, challenging the expectations often imposed on men in intimate relationships.

The founder of Coded Tunes, a label instrumental in launching the careers of Nigerian music stars like Olamide, 9ice, and Banky W, did not shy away from addressing the deeper consequences of this cultural phenomenon.

He pointed out that many men, driven by the desire to meet these expectations, turn to drugs and performance-enhancing substances, which pose significant risks to their mental and physical well-being.

“The obsession with proving masculinity in the bedroom is pushing a lot of men into unhealthy habits,” he warned.

“Many are using substances to sustain their performance, but these short-term fixes come with long-term costs. It’s leading to depression and severe health issues.”

Cabasa’s remarks echo a growing conversation about the pressures of hypermasculinity and its effects on men’s mental health.

Studies and surveys have highlighted a troubling trend of substance abuse and anxiety among men who feel inadequate due to unrealistic expectations in relationships.